Marriage --A Preface

"Elliruve Manava kaaduva roopasiye... bayakeya balliya..." wow! Its good to write after long time by pulling out all the stops. Am peppy to write especially on this topic. No! No! I haven’t got any one nor am going to find one in near time or until I get my dream list up to scratch. I'm not yet prepared, so I’m just trying to stitch the words, which are running in me. Regarding this I just let my hair down, even in the recession time:) and result of it is this post.

As I know this is always been a hot topic in our discussion. Someone used to share the bride's expectation of marrying for what he can buy for her and not for what he is:( and pulling each others legs assuming them in grooms place:). Remembering all this, while browsing I saw a matrimonial ad, which stated something like this "Marry well settled (What they meant here?) Gals in Karnataka, TamilNadu, Kerala..." For curiosity I entered the site after confirming that no body is watching me and scanned few profiles posted by grooms.
Huff! They had a list of requirements like she should be caring, lovable, true hearted, honest, good family (will anyone announce themselves as they are from bad family!) blah blah... Then I saw few bride profiles, it was no different. He should be working in MNC, expected CTC, government job, good character, well settled (I thought, I can call myself well settled after marriage:( ), good family etc.,
I thought, Ipso facto some of these profiles were created without being myopic. Their English and bride’s expectations amused me. I was a Dutchman!

I started asking myself how will I define these words like caring, lovable, honest, good hearted.... Hmm! My mind stood like bump on a log to define. I gave up defining these terms because marriage is like taking a chance and then both going through all vicissitudes. I started thinking what will be my small requests for her, keeping in mind changes I have to undergo in my lifestyle.

Wow! I was Gung-ho about the power of imagination. OK I just like to shoot from the hip word for word from my mind. Here it goes... She should not wake me early on weekends, she should not change channel when am watching NDTV profit, except if her serial is REALLY progressing, she should give company when I got struck in traffic jams, she should support my music (OK my roommates now please stop laughing at this), she should not find out grammatical mistakes in my blog, she should not rake over the coals for forgetting her special days (birthdays/anniversary...), she should not disturb while watching Girish Kasarvalli movies, she should not turn on waterworks often, she should not put on strike when am late from office(I try not to make it habit), ahh! At least she should listen my poems if not encourage me. OK OK enough let me put a sock in it and keep the remaining sweet nothings for future.

After this small big list my mind struck with question, what U are giving? Again my mind stood like bump on a log, but I can promise I will be up to scratch for your expectations and I don’t want to cotton up to now. OK in short here it is in my own poetic way....

ನಾ ಕವಿ-2

ಎಲ್ಲಿರುವೆ ನನ್ನ ಚೆಲುವೆ?
ಹಾಳಾದ ಮನಸ್ಸನ್ನು ಹಾಯಾಗಿರಸಲು
ಹಾಳಾದ ಮೌನವನ್ನು ಮಾತಾಗಿಸಲು
ಹಾಳಾದ ಮುಂಜಾನೆಯ ಬೆಳಕಾಗಲು

ಎಲ್ಲಿರುವೆ ನನ್ನ ಚೆಲುವೆ?
ಹಾಳಾದ ಏಕಾಂತದಲ್ಲಿ ಜೊತೆಯಾಗಲು
ಹಾಳಾದ ಕವಿತೆಯ ಕೊನೆಶಬ್ದವಾಗಲು
ಹಾಳಾದ ನಿರೀಕ್ಷೆಯ ನೆನಸಾಗಲು

ಎಲ್ಲಿರುವೆ ನನ್ನ ಚೆಲುವೆ?
ನನ್ನ ಹೆಸರ ನಿನ್ ಹೆಸರಿಗೆ ಸೇರಿಸಲು

He he your experiences are always welcome....
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From: mamatha
Sent: Wednesday, February 04, 2009 3:27 PM
To: 'harsha'
Subject: RE: Marriage --A Preface


u laughed at others list, now what abt ur list................
there are bigger problems after getting married..............

From: harsha [mailto:harsha.mp@thoughtfocus.com]
Sent: Wednesday, February 04, 2009 3:21 PM
To: mamathav@huawei.com
Subject: RE: Marriage --A Preface


Thanks.... ha ha.. list is only a humorous part.... and not mandatory....

From: mamatha
Sent: Wednesday, February 04, 2009 4:36 PM
To: 'harsha'
Subject: RE: Marriage --A Preface


but u should not have too many phrases, I think

From: harsha [mailto:harsha.mp@thoughtfocus.com]
Sent: Wednesday, February 04, 2009 4:36 PM
To: mamathav@huawei.com
Subject: RE: Marriage --A Preface


Thanks... I vl take care it next time..... i just scraped which all came to my mind...........

From: mamatha
Sent: Wednesday, February 04, 2009 5:09 PM
To: 'harsha'
Subject: RE: Marriage --A Preface


Maybe u r too fond of phrases............

From: harsha [mailto:harsha.mp@thoughtfocus.com]
Sent: Wednesday, February 04, 2009 5:15 PM
To: mamathav@huawei.com
Subject: RE: Marriage --A Preface


ya to some extent.. but one can understand frm the context....

From: mamatha
Sent: Wednesday, February 04, 2009 5:37 PM
To: 'harsha'
Subject: RE: Marriage --A Preface


ya true...............but my suggestion is that to reduce the no of phrases.............In one incident u can have 1 or 2..........

From: harsha [mailto:harsha.mp@thoughtfocus.com]
Sent: Wednesday, February 04, 2009 5:37 PM
To: mamathav@huawei.com
Subject: RE: Marriage --A Preface


reader should not feel like reading Hindu paper.......:)

From: Shaileshkumar Dattatraya [mailto:shaileshkumar.dattatraya@sasken.com]
Sent: Wednesday, February 04, 2009 3:46 PM
To: harsha
Subject: RE: Marriage --A Preface


Very good poet...keep it up..

ನಾ ಕವಿ-6

ಕಾಡುವ ಈ ನೆನಪು
ಬೇಡವೆಂದರು ಕಾಣುವ ರಸ್ತೆ ಬದಿಯ ad boardನಂತೆ
ಬೇಡವೆಂದರು ಬರುವ credit card ಕರೆಯಂತೆ

ಬಾರದ ಈ ನೆನಪು
Late ಆದಾಗ ಬಾರದ BMTC ಬಸ್ಸ್ನಂತೆ
Recession ಸಮಯದಲ್ಲಿ hike ಸಿಕ್ಕ ಸಂಬಳದಂತೆ

ಬರುವ ಈ ನೆನಪು
Trainನಲ್ಲಿ ಸಿಗುವ ಅಪರೂಪದ ಸ್ನೇಹಿತರಂತೆ
ಕವಿಯಲ್ಲದಿದ್ದರು ಮೂಡಿಬರುವ ಅಪರೂಪದ ಕವಿತೆಯಂತೆ
--ಹrsha

From: R, Jyothi
Sent: Thursday, January 29, 2009 2:30 PM
To: Harsha M P
Subject: RE: Naa kavi-6


Is this ur creativity..? or forwarded one…?

From: Shaileshkumar Dattatraya
Sent: Thursday, January 29, 2009 2:30 PM
To: Harsha M P
Subject: RE: Naa kavi-6

Good...
kavitegalu chennagide Harsha keep it up...

From: Shivalingaiah, Kiran
Sent: Thursday, January 29, 2009 2:33 PM
To: Harsha M P
Subject: RE: Naa kavi-6


Awesome maams J

From: Harsha, Sri (NSN - IN/Bangalore)
Sent: Thursday, January 29, 2009 2:34 PM
To: ext Harsha M P
Subject: RE: Naa kavi-6

wha wha wha..superru superru..

From: K, Sheela
Sent: Thursday, January 29, 2009 3:02 PM
To: Harsha M P
Subject: RE: Naa kavi-6


Hmmmmmm


Very good one ya ……..

ನಾ ಕವಿ-5

ಅಂದುಕೊಂಡೆ ಅಂದು, ನಿಲ್ದಾಣದಲ್ಲಿ ಅವಳ ಕಂಡು
ಬರೆಯಬೇಕು ಇವಳ ಹೆಸರು ನೀರ ಮೇಲೆ ಎಂದು

ಅಂದುಕೊಂಡೆ ಇಂದು, ಅವನ ಜೊತೆ ಕೈ ಹಿಡಿದು ನಡೆವ ಕಂಡು
ಮಳೆ ಸುರಿಯಿತು ನಾ ಬರೆದ ಹೆಸರ ಮೇಲೆ ಇಂದು

ಅಂದುಕೊಂಡೆ ಈಗ, ದುಡುಕಬಾರದು ಎಂದೂ ಕಂಡು
ಅವಳಿಗಿಂತ ಇವಳೇ ಎಷ್ಟು ಚೆಂದ ಎಂದು
--ಹರ್ಷ

From: Harish C
Sent: Wednesday, January 28, 2009 12:40 PM
Cc: anoop.chandrachar@wipro.com; 'ajith'; 'girya'; 'kempya'; 'mama'; 'mulla'; 'nitin'; 'vadi'
Subject: RE: Naa kavi-5


Ha ha kaviratna mullaadaasa avrige jayavaagali…superb…

From: Munaff, Abdul
Sent: Wednesday, January 28, 2009 1:26 PM
To: Harsha M P
Subject: RE: Naa kavi-5


Lo sleeping kavi....... Spare some time to do office work......... :)

From: K, Sheela
Sent: Wednesday, January 28, 2009 5:28 PM
To: Harsha M P
Subject: RE: Naa kavi-5

Good one

ನಾ ಕವಿ-4

Written for one of my friends...

ಕನಸುಗಾರ ನಾನು
ಕಾಣದ ಕನಸ ನನಸು ಮಾಡಲು ಹೊರಟಿರುವೆ
ಇಲ್ಲದ ಮನಸ್ಸಿಗೆ ಮನಸ್ಸು ನೀಡಲು ನಿಂತಿರುವೆ

ಕನಸುಗಾರ ನಾನು
ಕತ್ತಲ ಬೆಳಕಲ್ಲಿ ಬೆಳದಿಂಗಳ ಹುಡುಕಲು ಹೊರಟಿರುವೆ
ಇಲ್ಲದ ಭಾವನೆಗಳ ಬಂಧಿಸಲು ಬಯಸಿರುವೆ

ಕನಸುಗಾರ ನಾನು
ಕನಸಿನಿಂದಾಚೇ ಕಾಲದ ಕೈ ಹಿಡಿವ ಕಲಿತೆ
ಇಲ್ಲದ ಈ ಕವಿತೆಯ ಕನಸಿನಿಂದಾಚೇ ಕಂಡೆ
--ಹರ್ಷ

Sheela Ramesh's comment

"kanasugaara naanu
KANASININDACHE KALADA KAI HIDIYUVA KAVITE GEECHALU HORATIRUVE
ILLADA KAVI HRUDAYA KANASINIDACHE BELASALU BAYASIRUVE "

From: anoop.chandrachar
Sent: Friday, January 23, 2009 11:42 AM
To: harsha.mp@thoughtfocus.com
Subject: RE: Naa kavi -4


Excellent…. Good going harsha..!!!

From: Shetty, Rohith IN BLR SISL
Sent: Friday, January 23, 2009 11:42 AM
To: Harsha M P
Subject: RE: Naa kavi -4

U written this for girl friend or boy friend?

From: Basava
Sent: Friday, January 23, 2009 12:04 PM
To: 'Harsha M P'
Subject: RE: Naa kavi -4

This is really good. I liked this than other your poems..

Good work, keep it up

From: Naik, Manoj (IE10)
Sent: Friday, January 23, 2009 12:56 PM
To: Harsha M P
Subject: RE: Naa kavi -4


Kattl belakalli andre enu???? it should be Kattalalli or belkalli…


From: Pavan Nagaraj Dixit
Sent: Friday, January 23, 2009 1:35 PM
To: Nitin.Kulkarni; 'Halageri, Milind Indiresh'; Vadiraj P.Kadur; girish@allgosystems.com; harish.c@patni.com; Harsha M P
Subject: FW: Naa kavi -4

Hakka Mulla enapa Kuvempu, D.R Bendre avrige competition kodakuntiyallapa.............this is really good le Mulla.....illi tanka bandirodraga ida best anstu............continue......aaadra kelsa bittu kavana barkanta kundarbyada, madla recession ageti...

ನಾ ಕವಿ - 3

ಏನೀ ಬದುಕು?
ನೋಡದ ಅಣ್ಣನ ತಮ್ಮನಾಗುವೆವು
ತಮ್ಮತನವ ಮರೆತು ಹಲ್ಕಿರಿವೆವು!

ಏನೀ ಬದುಕು?
ಅಂತರ್ಜಾಲದ ಮುಂದೆ ಅಂತರ್ಮುಖಿ ಯಾಗುವೆವು
ಕಾಣದ ಕೈಗಳ ಕುಲುಕುವೆವು!

ಏನೀ ಬದುಕು?
ವಾರದ ನಿದ್ದೆ ವಾರಾಂತ್ಯದಲ್ಲಿ ಮಾಡುವೆವು
ದೆವ್ವದ ಸಮಯದಲ್ಲಿ ಊಟವ ಮುಗಿಸುವೆವು!

ಏನೀ ಬದುಕು?
ಮಾಯಾಮೃಗವಾಗಿದೆಯಾದರು
ಏಣಿಸುವೆವು ಜಣ ಜಣ ಕಾಂಚಾಣ
ಜಣ ಜಣ ಕಾಂಚಾಣ
--ಹರ್ಷ
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From: Harish C
Sent: Thursday, January 22, 2009 12:51 PM
To: 'ajith'; 'girya'; 'kempya'; 'mama'; 'mulla'; 'nitin'; 'vadi'
Subject: RE: Naa kavi - 3


Bhari bidle harsha kavi aagi bitti…

From: K, Sheela
Sent: Thursday, January 22, 2009 12:45 PM
To: Harsha M P
Subject: RE: Naa kavi - 3

Hey harsh

It has meaning but last thought does not seems to be rhyming like 1st 2 its just my thought ok

From: Harsha M P [mailto:harsha.mp@thoughtfocus.com]
Sent: Thursday, January 22, 2009 12:55 PM
To: K, Sheela
Subject: RE: Naa kavi - 3


thanks.. i always welcome my fres comments/suggestion.. i dont mind...

i just wanted to sound postive..... u can add ur lines to last one...

From: K, Sheela
Sent: Thursday, January 22, 2009 1:01 PM
To: Harsha M P
Subject: RE: Naa kavi - 3

SURE

How is this ……….Try this ……………….

ENI BADUKU ?

MAYAMRUGA AAGIDE ENDU YOCHISUVEVU

JANA JAN KANCHANADA SWARA KELI SWLAPA NITTUSIRU BIDUVEVU

Or
JANA JANA KANCHANA KANDU Nemmadi PADUVEVU

It too sounds some what Positive

ನಾ ಕವಿ-1

ur comments(not questions) are always welcome..:)

My friend SriHarsha's comment:

ಕೇಳಿದೆ ನಾ ಮುಗಿಲಷ್ಟು ಆಸೆ ಹೊತ್ತು,
ಅವಳ ಸನಿಹದಲಿ ನಿಂತು ,
ಕವಿಯಾಗಲು ಹೊರಟಿರುವೆ ನಾ
ಮೊದಲ ಕವಿತೆಯಾಗುವೆಯಾ?
ಮುಗುಳ್ನಕ್ಕು ಪತ್ರಿಕೆ ಕೊಟ್ಟಳು
ಮರೆಯದೆ ತನ್ನ ಮದುವೆಗೆ ಬರಬೇಕೆಂದು
ಹೇಗೆ ಮರೆಯಲಿ.. ಏನು ಹೇಳಲಿ..

ಕೊನೆಗೂ ಕವಿಯಾದೆ ನಾ
ಅದಳವಳು ಮೊದಲ ಕವಿತೆ
ಹೀಗಿದೆ ನಾ ಕವಿಯಾದ ದುರತಂತದ ಕಥೆ.

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From: Basava
Sent: Monday, January 19, 2009 11:26 AM
To: 'Harsha M P'
Subject: RE: Naa Kavi

Good sir..

From: mamatha
Sent: Monday, January 19, 2009 11:42 AM
To: 'Harsha M P'
Subject: RE: Naa Kavi

its funny and nice..........

From: Harsha, Sri (NSN - IN/Bangalore)
Sent: Monday, January 19, 2009 11:52 AM
To: ext Harsha M P
Subject: RE: Naa Kavi


Harsha.. swalpa modify maadidini nodu..

ಕೇಳಿದೆ ನಾ ಮುಗಿಲಷ್ಟು ಆಸೆ ಹೊತ್ತು,
ಅವಳ ಸನಿಹದಲಿ ನಿಂತು ,
ಕವಿಯಾಗಲು ಹೊರಟಿರುವೆ ನಾ
ಮೊದಲ ಕವಿತೆಯಾಗುವೆಯಾ?
ಮುಗುಳ್ನಕ್ಕು ಪತ್ರಿಕೆ ಕೊಟ್ಟಳು
ಮರೆಯದೆ ತನ್ನ ಮದುವೆಗೆ ಬರಬೇಕೆಂದು
ಹೇಗೆ ಮರೆಯಲಿ.. ಏನು ಹೇಳಲಿ..

ಕೊನೆಗೂ ಕವಿಯಾದೆ ನಾ
ಅದಳವಳು ಮೊದಲ ಕವಿತೆ
ಹೀಗಿದೆ ನಾ ಕವಿಯಾದ ದುರತಂತದ ಕಥೆ.

maga.. ninge olle kannada barutte.. madhya madhya english sirisbeda.. madhya madhya english serisidre intensity(meaning) of the kavithe will be converted and ur kavithe looks more like soke chutuka.. like. joke.. if you want ur poems to be light and joke then yes go ahead. but if u work little on it. u can get good lirics.. like yograj bhat and kaikini.. see their songs does not have single english word..
ade nodu bere yavru bardudre sumne rhyme barbeku anta englishu hindi ella seristare... choise is urs.. let me know what do u feel and which way you want to go.. so that i can restrict my comments to the way you want to move with ur writings :)

From: K, Sheela
Sent: Monday, January 19, 2009 1:33 PM
To: Harsha M P
Subject: RE: Naa Kavi

If u insist try last line like

NANNA CRUSH CRASH AAGI ,HEART HURT AAGI PART PART AAGI HELITU

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